In logic and philosophy, an argument is a series of statements typically used to persuade someone of something or to present reasons for accepting a conclusion.
To Argue: to present reasons or facts in order to persuade someone of something
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Funnily enough, some of us can not stand it when others present their reasons or facts that may be contrary to their own opinions, in a constructive effort to persuade them. Happens to me too, especially when am dealing with my kids smile emoticon Lol.
Some of us rather the Holy Spirit comes down himself to present those arguments; even if God intended to go through someone else to make them see the light.
Did you know that whether you are listening to the radio, watching a TV show, siting at Church listening to the Pastor, reading a book by an author; you are actually subjecting yourself to their opinions; thereby giving them an opportunity to present their arguments to you in order to persuade you or make you see things their way???
So when you don’t agree, why don’t you smash the TV, throw away the book and simply shut the Pastor up???
Instead, even though you don’t agree, you sit there nicely and listen.
Why is it that people in relationship, all of a sudden, can’t stand from their partners (mostly female partners) what they easily take from all others sources their entire life and all day long???
Is it that they feel that their partner is but a loyal subject that must subject themselves to their every opinion and desire???
Understandably, from time to time, people may need their partners to sit there and simply listen as though in front of a TV…cuz no one in their right mind talks back to the TV or the Pastor smile emoticon. But, let’s agree that your partner can’t just be the choir and you the Pastor, or the audience and you the TV host.
Typical traditional advice in couple counselling: “when your Partner/Master speaks, you must shut up and listen. Wait until he’s ready to listen to bring up the subject again. If then, he is still not ready, try another time. If he still doesn’t want to talk about it (eventhough he might have been wrong or it’s an important subject), then leave it alone. He will come to his senses by the power of the Holy Spirit. That’s what a good woman does to maintain peace in her marriage.”
Euh, really??? What about giving room for both parties to freely express themselves without the fear of steering up misplaced anger, or being labelled stubborn and argumentative?
And WHY DOES STATING YOUR OPINION A SIGN OF DISRESPECT? Why is it not a sign of disrespect when it’s never a good time to pay mind to your partner? Or IS RESPECT AN EXCLUSIVE THING, SOLE BENEFIT OF ONE PARTY?
Nowadays, even small children have the right to state their opinions and be heard without the fear of angering their parents. However, it is understandable that at times, parents expect children to simply abide by their decision without the need for an explanation. But that’s a Child-parent relationship.
May I suggest that it is unrealistic to expect the same dynamic in a grown up relationship…unless one lives in the 18th century.
May I suggest that you forget “age old traditions or dogma” for a minute and do what is right by your partner, what is right for both of you, and not for just one person?
When it comes to communication, may I suggest that we give our partners (both sides) the same attention, patience and respect we give to the TV? Pleeeeaaase!!!!
PS (sarcastic me:): Apparently as a woman, trying to state why one is right is a capital sin…a big no no. My advice (wink-wink): simply throw your brain to the dogs and call it a day…
Did you think the days of “BE PRETTY AND SHUT UP” were over? Well, think again…my bad, don’t you dare thinking!!!
Well, I’ll shut up now…am probably starting to look pretty-ugly to some now…Still if my argument angered you…feel free to jump and…Mouaah